Reignite Romance Into Your Life
Women want to reignite romance into their daily lives. It’s no secret that because of this, the romance industry is booming. There’s a 1.44 billion dollar industry centered on women’s experiences. As the best-selling genre in fiction, the romance industry has many sub-genres, ultimately chasing the elusive Happily Ever After. Chances are, you’ve heard of stories like Fifty Shades of Grey or even authors like Colleen Hoover.
Maybe you’re even a voracious consumer of romance novels. These novels often reignite something in women that makes them romantic again. So, why do these books have such a stranglehold on the industry? What makes these books resonate so soundly with readers?
The answer is simple: they’ve mastered the art of making people, especially women, feel validated and heard. They help reignite romance into your life.
Maybe you’ve experienced riveting romance in your life, but as the relationship has progressed, things become simple and quiet. You’ve become more comfortable together, and yet you feel the spark is fizzling. Your needs aren’t being met anymore, your feelings are unconsidered. You wish you’d come home to flowers or dinner. Hell, even the socks thrown into the hamper instead of in the middle of the floor. You might ask yourself how things became so dull. You want more romance in your life like the novels you read.
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, romanticizing your own life is important. Not only will you appreciate slowing down and enjoying the small things, you’ll also learn to disconnect from outer influences and reconnect with the most important person in your life: yourself.
Reigniting romance is about making yourself the main character of your story. Once you do that you’ll be able to reignite romance in all areas of your life more successfully.
Romance Stories Always Have Imperfect Characters
Stories are boring when the characters are perfect. Great stories have believable conflict and character growth. Even yours. As with novels, you’re going to make it through tough situations. If you’re holding back on romance because the trouble in the world or your own life isn’t sexy, you’re missing out. In fact, reigniting romance is about more than good timing.
Deep down, romance is about genuine acceptance.
When the main character finally accepts that the problem holding them back is almost always internal, they learn acceptance, and can finally make space for their own joy. In contrast, everyone is shaped by the circumstances of their birth. One thing we can all experience in unity is a deep love for ourselves, an acceptance that isn’t predicated on class, race, sexuality or gender identity. Even if your life was consumed with trauma, you hate your body, or someone made you feel you weren’t good enough to be loved, acceptance deep down is about learning how to value yourself.
Once you’ve learned to live on your own timeline, whether or not you’re in a relationship, it’s easier to slow down and notice the forest for the trees.
Reignite Romance by Syncing Your Feelings to Your Reality
With the constant barrage of negative energy we all access every day, it’s easy to become desensitized. That applies not only to the horrible news we’re subjected to daily, but also the good things that we experience. Many of us have learned how to shut off our feelings, blocking the path to experiencing joy, butterflies, and the little moments.
Romantic gestures don’t have to be a five-star getaway to the French countryside. Sometimes it can be a hug from behind, a whisper in your ear, hand holding on a drive to the grocery store. And if you’re not partnered up, it can also be driving out into the country, pulling over, and just looking at the view without putting a time limit on yourself, or cranking up music in your car to dance to in the rain.
Some of the most romantic things that have happened, the best memories, are from the time we take to slow down and recognize the beauty and intimacy the world offers. A single boudoir photoshoot can help you reaffirm your connection to your own body and show you just how valuable you are when you become more vulnerable. We can all learn to acknowledge the beauty and romance that surrounds us every day.
Embracing the Romance of Life
Novels and movies show us what life could look like if we slowed down. The perfect lighting and angle can take the story of a tree from seed to towering figure; painting the beauty of one organism growing, going through hardship, becoming important to someone/something, finding conflict because someone wants to tear it down, and then maybe a home is built around that very tree, keeping it living and thriving until the end of its life cycle.
If writers can romanticize something as simple as a tree, so can you. In fact, we encourage you to look around and find something. Maybe it’s a houseplant or a candle, and imagine the story behind the object. Did it change the lives of the family who created it? Can you imagine the smiles on their faces, the butterflies in their stomach as they realized the sale to someone like you could change their lives forever?
Romance is feeling hard work and compassion. It’s slowing down to recognize the impact we have on others and their impacts on us. It’s the lingering look from your partner or the gentle touch in the kitchen. It’s the little things in a busy world intent on distracting us that reignites the romance in our lives.
Most importantly, romance is empathy and acceptance. Not just steamy scenes with your lover. So take the time to really figure out what you want more of in your life. And watch you start to reignite the romance into your life.
