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What was your motivation to seek out a boudoir photography experience? 


Originally the whole idea stemmed from my boyfriend being deployed. I thought what would be a good thing to send to him while he’s away. I came up with boudoir photos. And I could never have imagined that this sexy surprise for my boyfriend would turn into such a beautiful gift for myself. 


Choosing your studio/photographer is super personal, why did you choose The GFE?


-I do a little photography on the side and so I was just doing to set up all my camera settings and have my friends do it for me. Then I came across The GFE. I fell in love with Steff’s style. The beautiful way she photographed women from every walk life, and made their most beautiful attributes the center of attention. The way she made women of every shape and size feel amazing in their own skin. So I thought, What the hell, it’s worth it to just email her and see what is all involved. And boy was a pleasantly surprised. I instantly knew by her welcoming, charming, and passionate response that I had found the perfect place. 


Leading up to the shoot what were you most concerned about?


-Right after making the decision to book my shoot, I was most concerned about what I was going to wear. After reading a lot from previous clients and their experiences I kind of let that part go, because I was going to end up naked anyway! The worries then became, I couldn’t possibly look as good as these other beautiful women featured on the blog. I’m going to be the one who looks a mess. I can’t make a serious sexy face without looking silly! What was I thinking when I booked this shoot! Once I was in the studio in the makeup chair with Dessa and Steff chatting about normal everyday things, just like friends I have known all my life, all those worries just faded away. And, a little secret... Steff knows the trick to the smoldering sexy serious face 


What was your favorite part of your boudoir experience?


-My absolute favorite part of the girlfriend experience is the feeling that completely swept over me during and after my shoot. I felt sexy in a way I never felt before. In a way that completely 100% came from me and not anyone else. Don’t get me wrong, I still have huge insecurities about my body and things I would change in a heartbeat but I learned that to me, I’m at my sexiest when I’m completely myself, relaxed and laughing. 


My second favorite part was the two fabulous women who made this experience possible for the women before me and who make it possible for all of the women after me. They are truly amazing at what they do and have created such a fantastic place for women to pamper themselves, whether it be their sole motivation at the beginning or not. 


Is there anything you would change or do differently?


-I walked into my shoot with no expectations. I knew I was going to have a great time. I went in, taking the advice that most women before me gave, completely open to the idea of getting naked. Even still, knowing that I was going to do whatever Steff asked, because she’s the professional, it was still very surprising when she told me to shed everything. My only wish is that I would have been less stressed through the implied nude/nude set. More relaxed. 


What would you tell other women about your experience, would you recommend doing something like this for themselves?



-100% YES! Whether you do it just once or, like myself cannot wait to go back and do it again. If it even gives you a fraction of the confidence every woman should have it’s worth it. Not even taking the finished product into account, the experience itself, with Steff is soooo much fun. So laid back and soooo WORTH IT! I can’t say it enough! 


From the moment I stepped into the doors of The GFE, and even before, I knew I had come to the right place. I would recommend Steff and Dessa, one million times over!!!!!! 

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We are not running any holiday promotions for our services. Throughout the entire month we have been offering decreased deposits and payment plans on our services. To increase the incentives we already offer year round, we are giving you no deposits due until January 3rd for shoots booked in 2018. If your deposit is not paid by January 3rd with a signed contract, your session will be cancelled with no questions asked. 


Fill out the form below, an invoice and contract will be sent to you with a due date of January 3rd. Please indicate which shoot you desire. 

The Delicate our shoot featuring 2 wardrobe looks $275 with a required deposit of 150 or The Classic our 4 look shoot with styling included, $550 with a required deposit of $200. The Delicate does not include styling but can be added, just ask. The Classic does include full hair and makeup styling. 

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DISCLAIMER PLEASE READ *******No deposit due until January 3rd. Invoices will be sent on December 31st, 2017. You choose your shoot now, we get your name on the books after your deposit is paid, IF your deposit is paid. You can say YES now and change your mind. No questions asked. 

You must use the form on the website. You must sign a contract and return your deposit invoice by January 3rd. If you pay your invoice you will be contacted to schedule your shoot. If you don't, no hard feelings. The timing isn't right and I am a big big believer in timing. 

This is not for Valenetine's Day. Shoots with the delayed deposit will be booked between March 1st and June 1st. 2018

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I asked this lovely client if she would allow me to feature her Pittsburgh Boudoir experience with us and she graciously said YES! I love this session, it is one of my favorites from 2017 and even though this was months ago, I would fall all over myself to go back to this day! Without any further adieu...)

First, let me start by saying that up until my wedding day last week, my boudior shoot was probably the most fun I've had in a LONG time.  It was one of the best days of my life.  I've never felt happier, sexier, or more confident. 

I've struggled with my weight my entire life.  I've always been the "bigger friend".  I never really let it hold me back, and I always had great friends and family.  I was lucky that I was not subject to much "bullying".  When I got to college, I found myself in a place with little to no security blanket.  I had to make all new friends, and it was scary.  My weight suddenly bothered me more than ever before.  So,  I met with a surgeon and set myself up for gastric lap band surgery.  

I lost some weight and was feeling great.  I had tons of confidence and was for the most part, happy in my own skin.  My senior year of college I met Adam.   I quickly wooed Adam with my confidence and curves.  I was younger than him, I was fun, energetic and sexy.  I knew he was mine when he took me on a trip to Washington D.C. and told me he loved me. 

Over the course of our relationship I gradually got "less fun", bought less lingerie, spent more time focusing on finding the right job (had some stressful jobs that weighed heavily on me).  I put on weight and had less energy.  

 When Adam and I got engaged, I knew I wanted to do something special for him before the wedding--- and for me too! 

A girlfriend at work told me about her shoot with GFE.  I saw some of her pictures and heard about her experience and I KNEW this was what I needed to do.  I immediate emailed Stephanie, booked a shoot, and started shopping for outfits.  I knew I wanted to keep this as a surprise for Adam on our wedding day.

I was concerned about how I would photograph.  I've always had confidence to think I was attractive--- but never once had seen myself in a picture in underwear let alone less than.  I was self conscious about stretchmarks, scars, cellulite and varicose veins.

5 minutes into the shoot all of my fears vanished.  First of all Dessa made me look stunning!! I wish she could glam me up every single day.  If I had not had my wedding make up artist pre-booked, I would have booked Dessa.

Stephanie made me BEYOND comfortable-- picking out my outfit, coaching me every step of the way.  My favorite part was how she taught me to make the infamous "sexy/serious" face.  I had never been good at that and always looked like I had resting bitch face when I don't smile.  

If I could change one thing it would be TAKE MORE RISKS (i know everyone says this).  I wish I had shown off more of my body, worn less clothing, and not taken so long to warm up to the camera.  The night before my wedding I gave my photo album to my now husband.  He was more that grateful and said it was the best gift he could have ever asked for.  His only wish is that there were more pictures and MORE of my body showing.  

I would 110% recommend anyone do this.  For yourself!!! I was in such a rut where I got wrapped up in wedding planning and new jobs that I forgot to be sexy and love myself.  Doing this shoot has put things into perspective for me, given me back tons of confidence, and made me want to be sexier for me and my husband.  My husbands a great guy and he deserves the fun college girl he fell in love with.  

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What was your motivation to seek out a boudoir photography experience?

    I had been in a mentally abusive marriage for 20 years.  After having breast cancer and a bilateral mastectomy, I was searching for something to help make me feel beautiful again because I hadn't for so long.



Choosing your studio/photographer is super personal, why did you choose The GFE?

The niece of a friend had a shoot with you.  When I saw the photos - how beautiful they were,  tasteful, sexy, artistic and classy, I knew immediately I would choose The GFE if I ever became brave enough to book a session.   



Leading up to the shoot what were you most concerned about?

I was concerned about looking and feeling old in the photos.  I am probably one of your older clients. I imagined being photographed would be intimidating, but it was just the opposite.



What was your favorite part of your boudoir experience?

I felt you were genuinely interested in capturing "me".  The shoot was a lot of fun!   My other favorite part was the feeling of empowerment and confidence I took home with me after the experience.   



Is there anything you would change or do differently?

I would not change much....Maybe make some different wardrobe choices. 



What would you tell other women about your experience, would you recommend doing something like this for themselves?

The whole experience is amazing.  It's not just about the final result/photos.  The shoot itself is empowering, freeing, and Stephanie has a way of making you feel and look beautiful.  It's a luxury that I want all the women I love to do for themselves.   



Do you view yourself differently since your session? Do you appreciate your body more? Are you kinder to yourself?

Yes, I have more confidence.  I do appreciate my body more.  I thought I was a "flabby old hag".  I thought after losing my breasts, that my body was mutilated and the scars unattractive.  But it turns out that's not the case!  Turns out I am beautiful, regardless of my age and what my body & spirit have endured.  


When I beat Breast cancer, I never liked being called a "Survivor".  That word brings to mind the image of someone barely holding on by a thread.  But when I look at my photos, the term takes on a whole new meaning.  I want to share with other women that "survivors" can be sexy, beautiful and fully alive... Not just "hanging in there" ...And aren't we all surviving something? 


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So I've been planning this post for most of the summer then the summer got away from me. We had something like 20 plus women in August and sitting down to blog has damn near impossible. So why have I been wanting to write this post for so long. 



Yeah, fucking Target!

Every bit of wardrobe you see here came from every mom's haven. Target is king and the reasons are endless. You can mindlessly add things to your cart in the name of 'Treat yo'self' and feel no guilt about it. 

You are there anyhow so why not browse the lingerie department???? Word to the wise, house brand Gillian O'Malley is part of the VS family. So go ahead, pick up the lace cheekies and tell me the lace isn't super close to your VS panties you paid 3 times as much for.

I'll wait.

Try a new bra style, panty cut, fierce new color, finally jump on the body suit bandwagon....all while you get the milk and eggs. 

An entire boudoir wardrobe can be had for your session for less than 50 bucks! Some ideas include bra and panty sets, bodysuits, heels, white t shirts,'ve been to Target. They have everything! 

For me, wardrobe is the least important aspect of your shoot. I don't want you to feel as though you must bring in high end designer lingerie. Don't get me wrong, it has it's place. It is beautiful and fits so well but that doesn't mean anything if you don't wear lingerie and haven't already invested in it. I would much rather you pick up something simple that you feel confident in. Clients bring in items all the times and the tags are still on because they aren't sure they want to keep the items.

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You're gonna be scrolling for a long ass time.  This mega post features over 40 images from one client's boudoir session with us here at The Girlfriend Experience Boudoir. I decided while talking to her during hair and makeup, if I could help it, I wasn't going to have her images retouched. The reason why is extremely personal. It isn't my story to tell. If she wants to, we will tell it in another blog post. She recently won a give away for another session we were offering in our Exclusive VIP facebook group. For now, I want to tell you why I chose to not retouch her and why I love retouching. 

The old lady part of me was completely enamored by her flawless milky skin and found it hard to believe it was real in the first place. She didn't have a zit or a pore on her entire face. Once Dessa was done doing that patent pending Dessa Effect, as I call it, I thought, "She will look fake, any more smooth and she won't be real."

But see, real, is exactly what she is and real was what brought her to me. Yes, she is young. Yes, she is beautiful. But that doesn't absolve her of the same insecurities we all face. Life changes and so do our bodies. But because of shame, we hid the changes our bodies go through from other women. As if they aren't experiencing them too. 

I had my big girl body in 8th grade and my pediatrician told my mother I was morbidly obese; except I was 5'3, weighed 125 lbs, complete with D cups and a 15 inch waist to hip ratio. And I hid every single inch of it for as long as I could. I wore shorts 1 time in high school. I lived in hoodies. I wasn't shaped like everyone else and I was ashamed. I'd kill anyone I know for that body again. I didn't know what I had when I had it. My body never felt like it compared to those around me and it only became more of an issue when I became pregnant at 19. My body certainly never looked like other 20 year old bodies at the same time, my body looked 20 when it was 14 and looked 35 by the time I was 21.


Sometimes you aren't where you think you should  be and sometimes you are fighting so hard to be what you think you should be, that you never stop to recognize what is in front of you. In front of my camera wasn't a 35 year mama of 3 who couldn't see past her post baby body issues to realize she isn't giving herself enough credit instead I had very young woman who was already battling insecurities and needed to see that what IS, is incredible with out any additional assistance.

Flesh moves. It reacts to pressure. Skin puckers and pinches when constrained. I've had many clients complain about body issues that don't exist without certain articles of clothing. Standing this way or that way will change the shape of your body regardless of what you are wearing. Tensing your muscles will make you tighter. Slouching will give you a tummy. Lighting will either show all your cellulite or you will have none. Where your garment sits on your body can make you look wider or slimmer. And none of this has to with boudoir photography. This is life. This what so many of us don't know. We live inside these bodies and most of us are dissatisfied, myself included. But why are we dissatisfied?

Are we dissatisfied because there is actually something wrong with our bodies? Is there something wrong with the bodies we see portrayed to us? The answer is not cut and dry. Yes, perfect bodies are glorified. This is nothing new. If you think every woman in the 1940's actually had a 20 inch waist, you're crazy. That is the shape that was glorified at the time. Right now you either have to have an ass of steel in an Instagram worthy thong from Australia or be a bodacious plus sized babe that just happens to have the inflated proportions of a Barbie doll. Oh you're a regular normal gal who doesn't fit into either of those two columns? Sorry, there is nothing for you to look to for affirmation that your body is in fact, ok. And you new mom? We have a wrap for that tummy.

Women with body issues raise daughters with body issues, boys and men who only ever see a someones glorified idea of perfect bodies in the media or in fucking kill me now, porn, sure as shit don't help the situation. I am all for doing what ever it takes for you to feel content in your skin. Body Positivity isn't my jam. I've never looked at my cellulite and been like, "Oh hey, you're lookin' extra dimply today. I like it." But I have been able to flip the script and say "Hey, you're here. We might as well do the damn thing.", and move on and sometimes I call friends in Candada from a dressing room in target because I have to buy a bathing suit for a last minute pool invite when I am out of town and all my logical faculties have shit the bed and I need someone else to to help me rally because that is life.

I see bodies all the time. I see more real bodies then most. Real raw women bring their bodies all the time and want me to show them something other than what they see. And I can, like a fucking boss. 

So I looked at her and I saw myself. 

Young. Beautiful. Already battling body demons and completely unaware of just how remarkable she is. I thought, I don't have daughters. I will likely never impact another young woman this way. So I made the decision to not retouch her. For her to see and for you to see. To show her that what IS, right now is beautiful. So that for at least 1 day she could revel in this moment of realization that what she may see in the mirror isn't always that the world sees. 

If you've hung in this long, it might sound like I am anti retouching. Just the opposite. I fucking love my retoucher. Why? Because a woman with scars isn't always able to look past that pain. A woman who has spent more years sad that she is happy doesn't see the beauty in her wrinkles. A new mom who is trying to reclaim her sexuality so she can be more intimate with her husband doesn't want to gaze upon the stretch marks that helped her body grow a baby. That is the fastest way I know to make her feel unsexy. Our partners can tell us we are sexy, beautiful, silly or even dumb for feeling the way we do about our bodies but sometimes we just need a little help seeing it for ourselves. So I work with a retoucher to take those things away for you. So you can see the whole picture and not just what you're afraid of seeing. Retouching my clients doesn't make them less real it just helps their insecurities to feel a little less raw.

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What to wear. Nothing fits. Not your style. Out of your budget. Can't find the right size. Will this photograph well? He likes you better nakkie anyhow. Getting to the nitty gritty of shopping for your boudoir shoot can be the most exhausting part of the whole experience. Lingerie is great. But what you wear won't matter as much as you think. I encourage every client to at least consider an implied nude set with your shoot where we use your hands, hair, wardrobe, posing, sheets, pillows to hide parts of your body you might not wish to be photographed. Sometimes once a client has done the implied route, many of them decide to go for it and get naked!

So you're thinking if you don't like how you look in lingerie, how is going naked going to be any better? For one, lingerie can cut into soft flesh, cause wrinkles and bulges in our skin that do not exist without boning, underwire and elastics. Removing the culprits means we can show off your your curves, uninterrupted. I love the hip line of any size woman but panties cover up the crease on the inner thigh and you ever see low lovely that curve is from your standing vantage point. Rolls at the bra line, are created BY THE BRA. Take the bra off and we are left a beautiful taper from shoulder to waist...

So many of our clients were hesitant to take advantage of this ooption for their shoot but without question not a single one has been disapointed when they have seen the images. Many of our women have expressed that their nude images became their favorite images from their entire boudoir shoot. 

Something to consider.....




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You're in very good company. Every single client feels a little nervous, at lot nervous, petrified and some are shocked the even made it through the door. Know that what you are feeling is normal. It is even healthy. Being nervous means you are excited, that this experience means something to you. When you arrive for your appointment you most often greeted by our stylist who starts the day before anyone else. She opens the studio, lights the candles, turns on some music,  prepares her tools and products and warms up the coffee pot for your arrival. Don't be surprised if there is a four legged friend running around when she opens the door for you.  Think of Eddie and Talia as therapy dogs. Both will curl up in your lap at your feet and give you all their lovin'. She will help you lay out your wardrobe, shoes and accessories before you settle in the makeup chair. 

I have no skin in the game when it comes to the hair and the makeup you choose for your shoot. Colors are discussed between the two of you. I only want clean skin, big eyes and healthy lips. How smokey you go, is up to you. You will be in styling for anywhere from an hour to and hour and a half. During that time, I will likely sit with you and chit chat, wander over to your wardrobe, head down to the shooting area and have 6 or 7 cups of coffee. Once you have your finishing touches all complete, you are all mine. This is the perfect time to take a bathroom break. I'll have had at least 7 cups of coffee and will need the break myself. Your first outfit will ready for you in the dressing room along with a robe. 

Before we begin your session, I will give you some general guidelines. I explain my process about how I shoot and why. You really don't need to know anything. That is my job. I am responsible for posing you. I will direct you through process for creating moving facial emotions. I want your body language and your facial expression to work together to pull the viewer into the photograph. In all of the years I have been doing this, no two bodies have been the same. I find it quite remarkable. During the session I will fix your hair, adjust your wardrobe and even remind you to breathe. I will encourage you to move and emote on your own but if the impulse does not come to you; I am there as constant support. If the impulse never comes, your shoot is not much different from someone else's shoot. I will continue to direct and coach all of your movements until we have exhausted all of our wardrobe options. 

After we have photographed your final set, you will get dressed and we will discuss what happens to your photos from that moment forward. Which will be a whole other blog post about post processing and product design and payment plans. 

Go have a drink, take your partner on a date, take a shit-ton of selfies and go enjoy the high of doing something not many other woman have the courage to do and look forward to seeing the fruits of all your hard work. Sometimes shopping for lingerie for your boudoir shoot and amping up your grooming sets the stage for your shoot and beyond. Little bits of self care can really be a catalyst to improving how you see yourself....while wait until you see the boudoir photographs we have created together!

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Tomorrow I will be seeing what a few months of work means for our videos with our production company. We included a live image premiere with one of our actual clients. We wanted you to see another woman's genuine reaction to her images at her sales appointment.

For me, for The GFE, I only want you to have the images that you love. No matter how great a photo is, if you really hate your thighs, you shouldn't have to ever see that shit again. Friends and family take enough photos that, like most of the women I work with, you feel as though you have seen more bad photos of yourself than good. My job, is to take rockin' photos of you wearing less than you've ever worn in front of a stranger in some positions that only your partner may sees-- MAYBE--. From the outside looking in, it really sounds like a big fat dare, doesn't it? Challenge accepted. 

To that end, I asked one of our actual clients if she would allow us to film her seeing her images for the first time. I haven't seen any footage yet. I am giddy and nervous all the same time. It only seemed appropriate feature her images and her words for you today.

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What was your motivation to seek out a boudoir photography experience?

 It was always kind of in the back of my mind that maybe someday I would want to try doing a boudoir shoot. I made some lifestyle changes and decided to start eating better and exercising regularly, and ended up losing a few pounds. I had thought about doing a photoshoot for my husband as a gift and thought hell, i'd better do it now before things really start going south! lol


Choosing your studio/photographer is super personal, why did you choose The GFE?

So I was scolling on facebook one day and The Girlfriend Experience popped up as a suggested post. I had been thinking about doing a boudoir shoot anyway, and the post caught my eye, so I checked it out. I was blown away by the style and quality of Steff's photos. I had seen other photographer's advertise for boudoir sessions, and when comparing their photos to Steff's, her's far surpassed any that I had seen. I looked through literally all of Steff's photos and I fell in love with her style. Not to mention, each woman that she photographed looked stunning and exuded such confidence. I wanted to feel that confidence for myself.

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Leading up to the shoot what were you most concerned about?

Oh boy, there were a few things I was concerned about. The first being, "What the hell am I gonna look like naked on camera" and "dear lord I hope I don't end up looking like a truck!" I'm not a quiet person by any means, but when it comes to being naked in front of people, well it's just not something I am used to. So I was very apprehensive about that. I walked in very guarded and kept trying to cover up, and at times thought "oh shit I hope my nipple doesn't pop out", or " oh lord my ass is visible!". By the end of the session I was so comfortable that I was walking around completely topless and didn't even give it a second thought! All in all I was just nervous about the entire experience. Turns out i didn't even need to be!

What was your favorite part of your boudoir experience?

My favorite part was getting my makeup and hair done. As a busy mom of two kids under the age of 5, I don't even get to go to the bathroom by myself, let alone actually get time to sit in a chair and be pampered. As I sat in what i call the movie star chair and Dessa did my hair and makeup, I felt like a frig'n rock star. Looked like one too once she was done working her magic!!

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What would you tell other women about your experience, would you recommend doing something like this for themselves?

I would tell other women to go for it!! This was one hell of a positive experience and I would do it again tomorrow.


Is there anything you would change or do differently?

What would I change or do differently? hmmmmm, maybe some more squats?? hahaha. Honestly though, I went into this shoot planning to be covered up. I wasn't really interested in doing a whole lot of nudity. I am SO frig'n glad that I trusted Steff and listened to her advice. I went with the flow, got way more naked than I had planned, and ended up LOVING the nude pics way more than the clothed ones.

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Do you view yourself differently since your session? Do you appreciate your body more? Are you kinder to yourself?

I most definitely view myself differently now. I mean i never thought i was ugly or anything by any means. However after having 2 kids and just general aging, I wasn't exactly feeling sexy. I'd look in the mirror and see the cellulite, some stretchmarks, etc and just feel down on myself. That was pre-boudoir shoot. Now, when I look in the mirror, I still see those imperfections but the difference is, I don't give a shit. It doesn't ruin my day or my attitude like it would have before. From the moment I walked out of the studio (before seeing any of my pics) I just felt a sense of "aaaahhhhhh". I felt happier, more confident, etc. I noticed the change in my attitude immediately, and so did my husband!

Also, feel free to add anything. I just want to hear from you. Toss my questions out the window if you want!

I initially did this shoot as a gift for my husband. And, as much as he loves the photos, I can honestly say that this experience ended up doing more for me than it did for him. Steff didn't greet me with a handshake. I got a hug that felt like we've been friends for years. Her fun, playful personality shows immediately and made me feel so at ease. We laughed and carried on the whole time. When I went back to see my pictures, we cried together as I thanked her for helping me to see that I am not just "ok". My pictures turned out better than I could have EVER dreamed, and I mean that from the bottom of my heart. I totally didn't expect what I saw when I walked in to that image premiere. I was absolutely blown away. TRUST her ladies. This woman is absolutely amazing in every sense of the word. I walked into the studio to do this photo shoot nervous as hell and feeling just "ok " about myself....and left feeling like a frig'n goddess. xoxo

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I've avoided this for almost a month. She was next, she had just sent me her responses. Every time I've opened the website to blog, I closed it down. She was such a passionate woman and I didn't get to know her for long enough. Just a little over  a year but the impact that she had will last forever. I remember on a really bad day, we were texting and the next thing I knew were were having beers and she was hugging me to make the bad  go away. She was an epic hugger. She hugged like my mom. The kind that pulls you so close you could feel her pushing her love right into you so you know why I fell in love with her instantly. I am going to share this because, she was a soul sister of mine. She supported me endlessly and no one could say "Fuck it, Fuck Perfect, Fuck you" any better than this woman. 

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What was your motivation to seek out a boudoir photography experience? I wanted to show my (then boyfriend, now fiancé) that I believed him when he told me how beautiful he thought I was. It didn't seem fair to keep negating his opinion for the sake of mine, so the photos were an offer of gratitude to him. 



Choosing your studio/photographer is super personal, why did you choose The GFE? First came the blind Google search. Less than 1 minute after I typed "budoir photos +  Pittsburgh," I stumbled upon GFE and my decision was immediate. GFE's portfolio is full of women who look like me, who don't look like me, who have sass and boobs, who are shy with no get the idea. It was instantaneously clear these women were not just getting professional-level camera work; they were getting encouragement, support and a hell of a lot of casual swear words where needed. I was hooked! 





Leading up to the shoot what were you most concerned about? 


Girl, please. I was a cellulite-judging, hungry, sleepless, second-guessing hot mess about everything. 



What was your favorite part of your boudoir experience?

Let me tell you something. I have NEVER - EVER - in my lifetime walked into ANY room and been made to feel so immediately loved, welcomed and celebrated as I did showing up to Stephanie and Dessa on a cold Saturday morning. It was like walking into a room filled with only the people I'd ever loved most who inarguably knew me the best and with whom I had NO sense of competition or worry. Fuck the photos (PERFECT as they turned out to be); after 32 years of insisting I HAD to be smart because I'd never be pretty, in these girls' company I got the most honest, genuine self-esteem boost conceivable and breathed the most confident breath I'd ever taken. I will love them for the rest of my life for that. 


Is there anything you would change or do differently?


 I'd drink SO much more water (it makes a difference) and for the love of all things holy, I would eat! Starving for a week prior only made the donuts cramp my stomach and my guilt button soar - and for nothing! 




What would you tell other women about your experience, would you recommend doing something like this for themselves? 


Do it. Just. Effing. DO it!!!!! Do it for every calendar holiday. You will not regret it; you have my word. 



Do you view yourself differently since your session? Do you appreciate your body more? Are you kinder to yourself?

 All day every day. "Life-changing" is not nearly a strong-enough cliche to describe the difference. 



Also, feel free to add anything. I just want to hear from you. Toss my questions out the window if you want!


 I love you so fucking hard!