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She almost called and cancelled the night before her  boudoir shoot. She almost didn't leave her house that morning. She was damn near tears when she got out of the car. She wanted to run away as she climbed the stairs. Between you and me, I don't know how she didn't. We are grown women and so many of us have done incredibly hard things like surviving abuse, beating cancer, divorces and burying loved ones. And yet we are sometimes still surprised by how hard making certain moves and taking certain actions can be. For each moment of doubt she had, it is my hope that I gave her one more photo. For each of her thoughts that she tried to talk herself out of this boudoir experience, I hope I gave her one more photo. For every second of fear, I hope I gave her one more....

 

Every moment each of you shares with me, I hope I am able to return the love to you. For every one of those exchanges, I do my best to pass that along to the next woman that walks through my doors. Your stories, your presence and your hearts continue to inspire me and drive me; and may be to some, having boudoir photos seems like a frivolity. But those that move through this experience know that coming face to face with your beauty, humility, power, sexuality and grace can be so impactful in every other aspect of your life. 

Please, in your next moment of feeling weak just remember, you are able to do incredible things.

"Breathe. You’re going to be okay. Breathe and remember that you’ve been in this place before. You’ve been this uncomfortable and anxious and scared, and you’ve survived. Breathe and know that you can survive this too. These feelings can’t break you. They’re painful and debilitating, but you can sit with them and eventually, they will pass. Maybe not immediately, but sometime soon, they are going to fade and when they do, you’ll look back at this moment and laugh for having doubted your resilience. I know it feels unbearable right now, but keep breathing, again and again. This will pass. I promise it will pass."

— Daniell Koepke

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What was your motivation to seek out a boudoir photography experience?

I decided to do a boudoir shoot kiiiiiind of last minute as a 1-year "paper" anniversary gift for my husband (because photo paper counts, right?). I wasn't going to do it because I had done a pin-up shoot the year prior as an engagement/wedding gift and had made a calendar from that shoot. My husband started bringing up how he was sad that his calendar would be running out, so I finally said "Screw it! I'm doing another calendar!" I knew I wanted to do something more intimate and less character-like for this gift, and that boudoir photos would really surprise him. 

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Choosing your studio/photographer is super personal, why did you choose The GFE?

1 - The qualify of Steff's work is undeniable. I kept looking and looking at different photographer options, and always came back to hers because I loved (and still love) her work so much.

2 - After joining the private Facebook group, I knew the GFE energy was the kind of energy I wanted to surround myself with - positive, encouraging, empowering, with an emphasis on self-love and sharing that love with others.

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Leading up to the shoot what were you most concerned about?

Mostly wardrobe, and being "sexy enough." I don't really consider myself a sexy lady. I've always tended toward the goofy, light-hearted side of myself. As a performer, I've always been stronger in comedic roles, or roles in which I'm playing a boy, so I was really nervous about doing this intimate, sexy shoot. 

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What was your favorite part of your boudoir experience?

What wasn't my favorite part? Seriously. I can't pick just one. From getting dolled up with hair & make-up to the shoot to the reveal - I learned so much from the experience as a whole and had a blast. I can't ask for much more than that.

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Is there anything you would change or do differently?

Stress less about it? Haha! I was so nervous and I didn't need to be. I over-prepared in terms of wardrobe and working out/eating/not eating - the latter honestly got a little unhealthy and it just wasn't necessary. Everybody (and every body) can and should be celebrated as they are. Steff knows exactly what she's doing, and makes you feel totally comfortable - no need to stress!

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What would you tell other women about your experience, would you recommend doing something like this for themselves?

I'd say "It's absolutely incredible. 10/10 - highly recommend. Would do again." I don't think you really need a specific reason to do it, either. Mine was for an anniversary gift, but it ended up doubling as a gift to myself in terms of its affect on my self-love/appreciation. 

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Do you view yourself differently since your session? Do you appreciate your body more? Are you kinder to yourself?

100% yes to all. My photo reveal session was actually really emotional for me. I couldn't believe I was looking at myself. I have struggled with body image my entire life - my husband evens quasi jokes about my "girl in the mirror" syndrome where what I see in the mirror is NOT what anyone else sees when they look at me. So there I was sitting in the studio, looking at these photos of myself, and I thought, "Wow. What?!?! Who is that strong, sexy, empowered woman?! That's really me?!" My session helped me see myself in a way I never have before - or maybe I have, but have never been convinced of it. Either way, I came away from this session with a newfound sense of self that has started to transform my life in a variety of ways, and I cannot thank Steff enough for the part she played in that.

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Pittsburgh Boudoir Photography, Boudoir Photographer Pittsburgh, Walkin' the walk..........

The past several years I have written a year end review. Shared some unseen boudoir images and waxed poetic about what the year meant to me. Not that I don't have plenty to wane on about, I wanted to try something a little different. I do plan on reminiscing about all that 2017 held and all the beautiful women I have met, in our private Facebook group so I can share even more photos and even more stories. If you aren't a member yet, come join. 

Being photographed is one of those things us non celebrities, may never get used to. Clients ask me all the time if I have every had my own boudoir experience. Until this year, the answer to that was, "Not really." I carried a lot of guilt about that. I wasn't walking the the walk.I wasn't ready to see how someone else saw me. I wasn't ready to face body issues. I wasn't prepared to be vulnerable. I wasn't willing to take the risk. I have been asked by other photographers if they could photograph me and up until this past year, the answer has always been, "No." Even though I was flattered and very curious. I wasn't mentally prepared to see myself from the outside. ....

"my weight goes up and down all week all the time, after i get my braces off, my face swells when I get stressed, my skin is sad from having my kids, I can't find anything I want to wear, nothing looks good on me, I don't know why someone would want to photograph me, what if the photos are awful, I don't have anyone to give the photos to"... I had all these stories I was telling myself. 

Then one day... I still had all those stories. I also had a realization. If not now.....literally the youngest, I will ever be....when? If I don't at least try, will I regret it? How can I hold the hands of my clients and not understand what she is going through on the day she comes to me? I am an empath and this shit just didn't sit well with me. So I decided to start saying yes more, but not yes to everyone. I still wanted to feel in control. I want photos to feel like a collaboration whether I am the model or the photographer and this my goal for my clients as well. 

I am sharing a little over a year's worth of photos I have had taken by other artists. All at different places in my life, every single session at a different weight (something that would have been a big reason for me to say no previously), some without makeup and hair.....

All so I can  confidently say that I understand exactly how you are feeling....

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The above photos were taken by Dessa. God how talented she is. This was the start of it all. I asked her to take these. We work so closely and she understands me and the way I work that these images are the closest thing I could image to what it would be like, if I were the photographer. 

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Ahhhhh Denise Birdsong of Modern Love Photography. A little concept shoot that was years in the making and over before I knew it. Hands down, an enormous honor for me. I knew this could be a once in a life time opportunity and I would not tell her no know no matter how far she pushed me. When she asks if she can tape your nipples, you don't tell Denise no. 

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Teri Hofford Photography is a goddamned force to be reckoned with if you are a photographer you know her name. She came to stay with me this summer along with our gal pa, Paige Rynberg of Fearlessly You Boudoir. We bounced all over the studio, came to my house and ended the afternoon under the hose in my backyard. What she can create in the shortest amount of time is staggering. 

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The GFE Boudoir. ;) Yes, selfies!! Along with Paige and Teri we run a monthly challenge with one another where we shoot something chosen by someone else or from a collective list of off kilter ideas. Boudoir selfie are no joke. As much as I wanted control, being the model and the eyes didn't work as well as I had hoped. With no makeup and no hair styling, in my usual busted ass jeans, I tried to make some lifestyle boudoir happen at a home. If you want to see the rest of the series and the all the images from each of us, visit here https://www.terihoffordphotography.com/2017/12/08/manties3-girls-1-challenge-winnipeg-boudoir-photographer/

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You have gone and done the damn thing. You have made up your mind that this is your time. You aren't waiting any longer. You have booked your boudoir shoot. You've paid your deposit, signed your contract, set your date and you've found wardrobe you love yourself in. But, now it is really, real! I am going to give you 5 tips to make your boudoir experience more seamless!

 

1. Have our Day Of email ready, it will include a clickable link for our address so it will pop up right in your GPS. My personal phone number will also be listed incase anything happens, like traffic accidents, spilled coffee, getting lost.......

2. Have breakfast, drink some water and take an Advil. Part of my ass whispering involves twisting you up like you have taken a yoga class. While you're at it, stretch. It can never hurt. 

3. Make sure your hair is clean and dry. Wash and dry the night before or the morning of. If you are prone to getting oily, put some dry shampoo in when you blow dry. If you show up with greasy hair we aren't able to wash you and dry shampoo can only get us so far. 

4. Download the Go Mobile PGH app and take a photo of your license plate.  We have free on street parking if you're a lucky duck but if you don't snag one of those spots, you will be at a meter.  Paying at the meter is fine but if you are with us for more than 2 hours, you will need to feed the meter again and doing so from the app doesn't eat up your shoot time. 

5. Take a hard last look at your wardrobe. If there are any items that when I go over your wardrobe with you, will make you say, "I don't know why I brought that, that doesn't fit, I saw it on Pinterest or I bought it 100 years ago...." Toss it in the trash. Your time is valuable and wasting it in bad wardrobe is more expensive than you realize when it comes down to images you love versus anything else. 

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What was your motivation to seek out a boudoir photography experience? 

 

Originally the whole idea stemmed from my boyfriend being deployed. I thought what would be a good thing to send to him while he’s away. I came up with boudoir photos. And I could never have imagined that this sexy surprise for my boyfriend would turn into such a beautiful gift for myself. 

 

Choosing your studio/photographer is super personal, why did you choose The GFE?

 

-I do a little photography on the side and so I was just doing to set up all my camera settings and have my friends do it for me. Then I came across The GFE. I fell in love with Steff’s style. The beautiful way she photographed women from every walk life, and made their most beautiful attributes the center of attention. The way she made women of every shape and size feel amazing in their own skin. So I thought, What the hell, it’s worth it to just email her and see what is all involved. And boy was a pleasantly surprised. I instantly knew by her welcoming, charming, and passionate response that I had found the perfect place. 

 

Leading up to the shoot what were you most concerned about?

 

-Right after making the decision to book my shoot, I was most concerned about what I was going to wear. After reading a lot from previous clients and their experiences I kind of let that part go, because I was going to end up naked anyway! The worries then became, I couldn’t possibly look as good as these other beautiful women featured on the blog. I’m going to be the one who looks a mess. I can’t make a serious sexy face without looking silly! What was I thinking when I booked this shoot! Once I was in the studio in the makeup chair with Dessa and Steff chatting about normal everyday things, just like friends I have known all my life, all those worries just faded away. And, a little secret... Steff knows the trick to the smoldering sexy serious face 

 

What was your favorite part of your boudoir experience?

 

-My absolute favorite part of the girlfriend experience is the feeling that completely swept over me during and after my shoot. I felt sexy in a way I never felt before. In a way that completely 100% came from me and not anyone else. Don’t get me wrong, I still have huge insecurities about my body and things I would change in a heartbeat but I learned that to me, I’m at my sexiest when I’m completely myself, relaxed and laughing. 

 

My second favorite part was the two fabulous women who made this experience possible for the women before me and who make it possible for all of the women after me. They are truly amazing at what they do and have created such a fantastic place for women to pamper themselves, whether it be their sole motivation at the beginning or not. 

 

Is there anything you would change or do differently?

 

-I walked into my shoot with no expectations. I knew I was going to have a great time. I went in, taking the advice that most women before me gave, completely open to the idea of getting naked. Even still, knowing that I was going to do whatever Steff asked, because she’s the professional, it was still very surprising when she told me to shed everything. My only wish is that I would have been less stressed through the implied nude/nude set. More relaxed. 

 

What would you tell other women about your experience, would you recommend doing something like this for themselves?

 

 

-100% YES! Whether you do it just once or, like myself cannot wait to go back and do it again. If it even gives you a fraction of the confidence every woman should have it’s worth it. Not even taking the finished product into account, the experience itself, with Steff is soooo much fun. So laid back and soooo WORTH IT! I can’t say it enough! 

 

From the moment I stepped into the doors of The GFE, and even before, I knew I had come to the right place. I would recommend Steff and Dessa, one million times over!!!!!! 

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We are not running any holiday promotions for our services. Throughout the entire month we have been offering decreased deposits and payment plans on our services. To increase the incentives we already offer year round, we are giving you no deposits due until January 3rd for shoots booked in 2018. If your deposit is not paid by January 3rd with a signed contract, your session will be cancelled with no questions asked. 

 

Fill out the form below, an invoice and contract will be sent to you with a due date of January 3rd. Please indicate which shoot you desire. 

The Delicate our shoot featuring 2 wardrobe looks $275 with a required deposit of 150 or The Classic our 4 look shoot with styling included, $550 with a required deposit of $200. The Delicate does not include styling but can be added, just ask. The Classic does include full hair and makeup styling. 

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DISCLAIMER PLEASE READ *******No deposit due until January 3rd. Invoices will be sent on December 31st, 2017. You choose your shoot now, we get your name on the books after your deposit is paid, IF your deposit is paid. You can say YES now and change your mind. No questions asked. 

You must use the form on the website. You must sign a contract and return your deposit invoice by January 3rd. If you pay your invoice you will be contacted to schedule your shoot. If you don't, no hard feelings. The timing isn't right and I am a big big believer in timing. 

This is not for Valenetine's Day. Shoots with the delayed deposit will be booked between March 1st and June 1st. 2018

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I asked this lovely client if she would allow me to feature her Pittsburgh Boudoir experience with us and she graciously said YES! I love this session, it is one of my favorites from 2017 and even though this was months ago, I would fall all over myself to go back to this day! Without any further adieu...)

First, let me start by saying that up until my wedding day last week, my boudior shoot was probably the most fun I've had in a LONG time.  It was one of the best days of my life.  I've never felt happier, sexier, or more confident. 

I've struggled with my weight my entire life.  I've always been the "bigger friend".  I never really let it hold me back, and I always had great friends and family.  I was lucky that I was not subject to much "bullying".  When I got to college, I found myself in a place with little to no security blanket.  I had to make all new friends, and it was scary.  My weight suddenly bothered me more than ever before.  So,  I met with a surgeon and set myself up for gastric lap band surgery.  

I lost some weight and was feeling great.  I had tons of confidence and was for the most part, happy in my own skin.  My senior year of college I met Adam.   I quickly wooed Adam with my confidence and curves.  I was younger than him, I was fun, energetic and sexy.  I knew he was mine when he took me on a trip to Washington D.C. and told me he loved me. 

Over the course of our relationship I gradually got "less fun", bought less lingerie, spent more time focusing on finding the right job (had some stressful jobs that weighed heavily on me).  I put on weight and had less energy.  

 When Adam and I got engaged, I knew I wanted to do something special for him before the wedding--- and for me too! 

A girlfriend at work told me about her shoot with GFE.  I saw some of her pictures and heard about her experience and I KNEW this was what I needed to do.  I immediate emailed Stephanie, booked a shoot, and started shopping for outfits.  I knew I wanted to keep this as a surprise for Adam on our wedding day.

I was concerned about how I would photograph.  I've always had confidence to think I was attractive--- but never once had seen myself in a picture in underwear let alone less than.  I was self conscious about stretchmarks, scars, cellulite and varicose veins.

5 minutes into the shoot all of my fears vanished.  First of all Dessa made me look stunning!! I wish she could glam me up every single day.  If I had not had my wedding make up artist pre-booked, I would have booked Dessa.

Stephanie made me BEYOND comfortable-- picking out my outfit, coaching me every step of the way.  My favorite part was how she taught me to make the infamous "sexy/serious" face.  I had never been good at that and always looked like I had resting bitch face when I don't smile.  

If I could change one thing it would be TAKE MORE RISKS (i know everyone says this).  I wish I had shown off more of my body, worn less clothing, and not taken so long to warm up to the camera.  The night before my wedding I gave my photo album to my now husband.  He was more that grateful and said it was the best gift he could have ever asked for.  His only wish is that there were more pictures and MORE of my body showing.  

I would 110% recommend anyone do this.  For yourself!!! I was in such a rut where I got wrapped up in wedding planning and new jobs that I forgot to be sexy and love myself.  Doing this shoot has put things into perspective for me, given me back tons of confidence, and made me want to be sexier for me and my husband.  My husbands a great guy and he deserves the fun college girl he fell in love with.  

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What was your motivation to seek out a boudoir photography experience?

    I had been in a mentally abusive marriage for 20 years.  After having breast cancer and a bilateral mastectomy, I was searching for something to help make me feel beautiful again because I hadn't for so long.

 

 

Choosing your studio/photographer is super personal, why did you choose The GFE?

The niece of a friend had a shoot with you.  When I saw the photos - how beautiful they were,  tasteful, sexy, artistic and classy, I knew immediately I would choose The GFE if I ever became brave enough to book a session.   

 

 

Leading up to the shoot what were you most concerned about?

I was concerned about looking and feeling old in the photos.  I am probably one of your older clients. I imagined being photographed would be intimidating, but it was just the opposite.

 

 

What was your favorite part of your boudoir experience?

I felt you were genuinely interested in capturing "me".  The shoot was a lot of fun!   My other favorite part was the feeling of empowerment and confidence I took home with me after the experience.   

 

 

Is there anything you would change or do differently?

I would not change much....Maybe make some different wardrobe choices. 

 

 

What would you tell other women about your experience, would you recommend doing something like this for themselves?

The whole experience is amazing.  It's not just about the final result/photos.  The shoot itself is empowering, freeing, and Stephanie has a way of making you feel and look beautiful.  It's a luxury that I want all the women I love to do for themselves.   

 

 

Do you view yourself differently since your session? Do you appreciate your body more? Are you kinder to yourself?

Yes, I have more confidence.  I do appreciate my body more.  I thought I was a "flabby old hag".  I thought after losing my breasts, that my body was mutilated and the scars unattractive.  But it turns out that's not the case!  Turns out I am beautiful, regardless of my age and what my body & spirit have endured.  

 

When I beat Breast cancer, I never liked being called a "Survivor".  That word brings to mind the image of someone barely holding on by a thread.  But when I look at my photos, the term takes on a whole new meaning.  I want to share with other women that "survivors" can be sexy, beautiful and fully alive... Not just "hanging in there" ...And aren't we all surviving something? 

 

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So I've been planning this post for most of the summer then the summer got away from me. We had something like 20 plus women in August and sitting down to blog has damn near impossible. So why have I been wanting to write this post for so long. 

Because. 

Target. 

Yeah, fucking Target!

Every bit of wardrobe you see here came from every mom's haven. Target is king and the reasons are endless. You can mindlessly add things to your cart in the name of 'Treat yo'self' and feel no guilt about it. 

You are there anyhow so why not browse the lingerie department???? Word to the wise, house brand Gillian O'Malley is part of the VS family. So go ahead, pick up the lace cheekies and tell me the lace isn't super close to your VS panties you paid 3 times as much for.

I'll wait.

Try a new bra style, panty cut, fierce new color, finally jump on the body suit bandwagon....all while you get the milk and eggs. 

An entire boudoir wardrobe can be had for your session for less than 50 bucks! Some ideas include bra and panty sets, bodysuits, heels, white t shirts, jewelry....you've been to Target. They have everything! 

For me, wardrobe is the least important aspect of your shoot. I don't want you to feel as though you must bring in high end designer lingerie. Don't get me wrong, it has it's place. It is beautiful and fits so well but that doesn't mean anything if you don't wear lingerie and haven't already invested in it. I would much rather you pick up something simple that you feel confident in. Clients bring in items all the times and the tags are still on because they aren't sure they want to keep the items.

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You're gonna be scrolling for a long ass time.  This mega post features over 40 images from one client's boudoir session with us here at The Girlfriend Experience Boudoir. I decided while talking to her during hair and makeup, if I could help it, I wasn't going to have her images retouched. The reason why is extremely personal. It isn't my story to tell. If she wants to, we will tell it in another blog post. She recently won a give away for another session we were offering in our Exclusive VIP facebook group. For now, I want to tell you why I chose to not retouch her and why I love retouching. 

The old lady part of me was completely enamored by her flawless milky skin and found it hard to believe it was real in the first place. She didn't have a zit or a pore on her entire face. Once Dessa was done doing that patent pending Dessa Effect, as I call it, I thought, "She will look fake, any more smooth and she won't be real."

But see, real, is exactly what she is and real was what brought her to me. Yes, she is young. Yes, she is beautiful. But that doesn't absolve her of the same insecurities we all face. Life changes and so do our bodies. But because of shame, we hid the changes our bodies go through from other women. As if they aren't experiencing them too. 

I had my big girl body in 8th grade and my pediatrician told my mother I was morbidly obese; except I was 5'3, weighed 125 lbs, complete with D cups and a 15 inch waist to hip ratio. And I hid every single inch of it for as long as I could. I wore shorts 1 time in high school. I lived in hoodies. I wasn't shaped like everyone else and I was ashamed. I'd kill anyone I know for that body again. I didn't know what I had when I had it. My body never felt like it compared to those around me and it only became more of an issue when I became pregnant at 19. My body certainly never looked like other 20 year old bodies at the same time, my body looked 20 when it was 14 and looked 35 by the time I was 21.

 

Sometimes you aren't where you think you should  be and sometimes you are fighting so hard to be what you think you should be, that you never stop to recognize what is in front of you. In front of my camera wasn't a 35 year mama of 3 who couldn't see past her post baby body issues to realize she isn't giving herself enough credit instead I had very young woman who was already battling insecurities and needed to see that what IS, is incredible with out any additional assistance.

Flesh moves. It reacts to pressure. Skin puckers and pinches when constrained. I've had many clients complain about body issues that don't exist without certain articles of clothing. Standing this way or that way will change the shape of your body regardless of what you are wearing. Tensing your muscles will make you tighter. Slouching will give you a tummy. Lighting will either show all your cellulite or you will have none. Where your garment sits on your body can make you look wider or slimmer. And none of this has to with boudoir photography. This is life. This what so many of us don't know. We live inside these bodies and most of us are dissatisfied, myself included. But why are we dissatisfied?

Are we dissatisfied because there is actually something wrong with our bodies? Is there something wrong with the bodies we see portrayed to us? The answer is not cut and dry. Yes, perfect bodies are glorified. This is nothing new. If you think every woman in the 1940's actually had a 20 inch waist, you're crazy. That is the shape that was glorified at the time. Right now you either have to have an ass of steel in an Instagram worthy thong from Australia or be a bodacious plus sized babe that just happens to have the inflated proportions of a Barbie doll. Oh you're a regular normal gal who doesn't fit into either of those two columns? Sorry, there is nothing for you to look to for affirmation that your body is in fact, ok. And you new mom? We have a wrap for that tummy.

Women with body issues raise daughters with body issues, boys and men who only ever see a someones glorified idea of perfect bodies in the media or in fucking kill me now, porn, sure as shit don't help the situation. I am all for doing what ever it takes for you to feel content in your skin. Body Positivity isn't my jam. I've never looked at my cellulite and been like, "Oh hey, you're lookin' extra dimply today. I like it." But I have been able to flip the script and say "Hey, you're here. We might as well do the damn thing.", and move on and sometimes I call friends in Candada from a dressing room in target because I have to buy a bathing suit for a last minute pool invite when I am out of town and all my logical faculties have shit the bed and I need someone else to to help me rally because that is life.

I see bodies all the time. I see more real bodies then most. Real raw women bring their bodies all the time and want me to show them something other than what they see. And I can, like a fucking boss. 

So I looked at her and I saw myself. 

Young. Beautiful. Already battling body demons and completely unaware of just how remarkable she is. I thought, I don't have daughters. I will likely never impact another young woman this way. So I made the decision to not retouch her. For her to see and for you to see. To show her that what IS, right now is beautiful. So that for at least 1 day she could revel in this moment of realization that what she may see in the mirror isn't always that the world sees. 

If you've hung in this long, it might sound like I am anti retouching. Just the opposite. I fucking love my retoucher. Why? Because a woman with scars isn't always able to look past that pain. A woman who has spent more years sad that she is happy doesn't see the beauty in her wrinkles. A new mom who is trying to reclaim her sexuality so she can be more intimate with her husband doesn't want to gaze upon the stretch marks that helped her body grow a baby. That is the fastest way I know to make her feel unsexy. Our partners can tell us we are sexy, beautiful, silly or even dumb for feeling the way we do about our bodies but sometimes we just need a little help seeing it for ourselves. So I work with a retoucher to take those things away for you. So you can see the whole picture and not just what you're afraid of seeing. Retouching my clients doesn't make them less real it just helps their insecurities to feel a little less raw.